In today’s fast-paced world, mental health discussions have evolved from hushed whispers to open dialogues in public spaces. Yet, despite growing awareness, a significant gap remains in addressing mental health challenges, especially among men. For generations, men have been told to “tough it out” or “man up,” with emotions and vulnerability often seen as signs of weakness. But voices like Amandha Amarasekera’s are leading the charge to rewrite this narrative, showing that mental health is not a weakness but a vital part of being human.
Amandha is no stranger to the spotlight. Known for his impeccable fashion sense and ability to curate high-style looks for men, he has established himself as a trusted voice in the world of fashion and lifestyle. But his journey goes far beyond the realm of style. Amandha is on a mission to break down barriers and challenge outdated perceptions of masculinity. Through his platform, he encourages men everywhere to embrace their emotions, acknowledge their struggles, and seek help when needed. His approach blends his love for fashion, lifestyle, and advocacy, creating a space where self-expression and mental well-being go hand in hand — with TikTok as both his weapon and shield in breaking down barriers and sparking important conversations.
The Awakening: Men’s Mental Health
A turning point in Amandha’s social media journey came when his focus shifted from fashion to the pressing issue of men’s mental health. He became deeply concerned by the alarming rise in violent acts committed by men, particularly in Sri Lanka, and began reflecting on the deeper issues at play. While it was easy to label men as perpetrators, and he says, “punishment where it’s due,” Amandha recognized that very few were considering the root causes behind their actions. He states, “The only difference between me and someone who might have gone down the wrong path is that I had the opportunity to talk about my feelings and seek help.” The difference lies in the availability of resources, but its effects can be drastic.
His passion for advocating for men’s mental health was fueled by two deeply personal and transformative experiences. First, Amandha witnessed his father—raised in an era that discouraged emotional vulnerability—struggle without a means to express his inner turmoil. The inability to open up left emotional scars that Amandha would later understand more deeply. Then, a close friend confided in him about contemplating suicide, an eye-opening and heartbreaking moment that highlighted just how easily mental health struggles can go unnoticed, especially in men. These pivotal moments ignited a personal mission: to create a safe space for men to open up, seek support, and, most importantly, understand that it’s okay not to be okay.
TikTok: A Platform for Change
One of the most effective tools in Amandha’s advocacy is TikTok. Unlike Instagram and Facebook, which often focus on polished content, TikTok’s organic reach encourages raw and authentic conversations. “It’s one of the most organic platforms,” Amandha says, noting the many messages he has received from people seeking advice, guidance, and support after watching his videos. This immediate connection is what makes TikTok such a powerful platform.
Its ability to push content to a broad audience means messages about men’s mental health can reach people who might not otherwise encounter them. “[TikTok] works better for mental health awareness because it helps connect people with the help they need,” Amandha explains.
Through his TikTok presence, he has been able to reach a younger audience that is more receptive to progressive ideas about masculinity and mental health. As a platform for all walks of life, TikTok allows him to connect with people who have never had the opportunity to discuss their struggles before.
“When I started sharing my mental health journey on TikTok, I didn’t expect it to blow up like it did,” Amandha recalls. “But what I saw was an overwhelming response from men who had never spoken about their feelings, their depression, or their anxieties. They were reaching out, sharing their stories, and telling me how much it meant to see someone talk about real, raw emotions.”
Through his advocacy, Amandha believes that platforms like TikTok can serve as a support system. Videos, discussions, and open conversations about mental health can be life-saving. He recalls one moment when a viewer from the Middle East reached out after watching one of his mental health awareness videos. The viewer, going through a tough time, found the strength to seek help and support because of that video. For Amandha, this is the impact he strives for—touching lives, even from miles away.
Using Humor to Break the Stigma
Amandha’s content creation strategy, especially in TikTok, isn’t just about discussing serious issues. As he explains, “I create content that I would like to see myself. If I can find something funny, I’ll share it.” He takes a similarly light-hearted approach to mental health awareness. Rather than lecturing or preaching, he uses humor and relatable content to engage his audience. By combining light-hearted jokes with powerful messages, he reaches men in a way that feels accessible and non-threatening.
“I look at my friend group and think, what do we, as men, need to talk about? What are we lacking?” he shares. These insights form the foundation of his content, which he tests with friends before sharing it with the wider world.
The Ultimate Goal: A New Narrative
Amandha’s mission is simple yet powerful: to ensure that no man feels they have to face their struggles alone. Men’s mental health in Sri Lanka is in crisis, yet the stigma around expressing emotions keeps many suffering in silence. The pressure to appear strong leads to isolation, depression, and even suicide. This must change—now. To break this cycle, Amandha has also launched a Men’s Circle every other Sunday in collaboration with VIDA Clinic, creating a safe space where men can openly share their struggles, express vulnerability, and seek guidance from peers. “It’s time to start talking, supporting, and healing—together”, he iterates. He hopes to break this cycle, showing that seeking help doesn’t make someone weak—it makes them human.
By continuing to push for greater awareness, he aims to shift the narrative around men’s mental health in Sri Lanka and beyond. He wants men to understand that it’s okay to seek help, to ask questions, and to express what they’re going through without fear.
In the end, Amandha’s advocacy is about human connection. It’s about dismantling the stigmas that prevent men from opening up and ensuring that no one feels alone in their struggles. As social media platforms like TikTok continue to evolve, they remain crucial in spreading messages of hope and solidarity.
If there’s one thing Amandha wants people to take away from his work, it’s this: “You’re not alone. There’s always someone out there who cares, even if they’re miles away. I’m not going to stop,” Amandha declares. “The more we talk about mental health, the more we’ll see change. This is just the beginning, and I’m going to keep fighting for it. For all the men who still feel like they can’t speak up, I’m here. And I’m not going anywhere.”
